Tips To Relieve Holiday Stress

December 1st, 2019 | Posted by Velda in POETRY FOR WOMEN

Tips to Relieve Holiday Stress

The American Psychological Association (APA) found nearly half of all women in the United States experience heightened stress during the holidays, which puts their health at risk. The APA also learned that during this time, 41 percent of women use food and 28 percent use alcohol.

Here are 7 Tips to Relieve Holiday Stress.

Tips to Relieve Holiday Stress

Take calm-down breaks. Soon after you awake, close your eyes, take several deep breaths and meditate or just relax. Imagine yourself in a beautiful place, think of a happy memory or visualize yourself succeeding at a cherished goal. “Quieting down your mind before you begin your day can help it get off to a great start and things will flow for you,” says Debra Berndt, an expert in creative visualization and hypnosis.

Tips to Relieve Holiday Stress

Put on rose-colored glasses. When people try to push their bad habits on you during this holiday season, tune into their motivations.   For instance, before you get annoyed step into their shoes. Then graciously thank them for their misguided attention. Rather than view your situation with annoyance, be grateful instead.

Tips to Relieve Holiday Stress

Get moving. Perhaps one of the best ways to overcome stress during the holidays or any other time is to exercise regularly. Research shows that physical activity not only boosts your fitness and energy levels but can also elevate your moods.   In addition, exercise has been found to reduce anger, tension, fatigue and confusion.

Tips to Relieve Holiday Stress

Go for real foods mostly. Inevitably, at this time of year, you’ll be tempted with sugary, empty-calorie “treats” just about wherever you go. But to be your most energetic, focused and happy self, it’s best to eat foods that grow on trees or on the ground (vegetables and fruits) and to choose healthy fats (such as olive oil and flax seeds), lean protein (such as fish and organic chicken) and legumes, nuts and seeds.

Tips to Relieve Holiday Stress

Take polite portions of “comfort” foods and drinks. During the holidays, it’s easy to “fall off the wagon” and use or over-use alcohol, sugar and caffeine.  It’s best to think before you treat your body like a trash can instead of a temple.

Tips to RElieve Holiday Stress

Prepare “Nice To Do For Me” and “Need To Do For You” lists.  Writing down all that you have to do during the holidays will help you realize how doable your tasks are. Be realistic as to what you put on your lists. Then start tackling one item from each list in turn.  By alternating between lists, you won’t feel deprived, because you’re being good to yourself. When you practice extreme self-care and put yourself first, you are then fully available to others without resentment or anger.

Tips to Relieve Holiday Stress

Be Generous. One of the best ways to stay calm, content and cheerful this time of year is to act generously with your loved ones, co-workers and friends. This doesn’t have to mean you’re spending a lot of money. You can be generous with your compliments. You can generously offer to do a loved one’s dreaded errand.  When you are creative with your gifts and thank you’s, people will appreciate your real, heartfelt sentiments.

WE WISH YOU A STRESS FREE DECEMBER!

Tips to Relieve Holiday Stress

November's Morning Blessing

 Dear Great Spirit,

You are inside of me, within my very breath,

Within each bird, each mighty mountain,

Your Sweet touch reaches everything,

And I am well protected.

Thank you for this beautiful day before me.

May joy, love, peace,

And compassion be part of my life,

And all those around me on this day.

I am healing and I am healed.

~Ayurveda Morning Prayer

November's Morning Blessing

This lovely Ayurveda Morning Prayer

 Says everything there is to say

About what we wish for our loved ones,

 Our neighbors, all nations, our planet, and ourselves.

November's Morning Blessing

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New Year’s Healing Poem for Peace and Wellness

New Year's Healing Poem

 
The greatest achievement is selflessness. 
The greatest worth is self-mastery. 
The greatest quality is seeking to serve others. 
The greatest precept is continual awareness. 
The greatest medicine is the emptiness of everything. 
The greatest action is not conforming with the world’s ways. 
The greatest magic is transmuting the passions. 
The greatest generosity is non-attachment. 
The greatest goodness is a peaceful mind. 
The greatest patience is humility. 
The greatest effort is not concerned with results. 
The greatest meditation is a mind that lets go. 
The greatest wisdom is seeing beyond appearances.
(Translated from the Ancient Indian Buddhist leader Atisa,
from the 11th century AD) 

Wishing Everyone Health, Peace and Love

New Year's Healing Poem

 

The Guest House by Rumi

Rumi (13th century Sufi mystic), uses the metaphor of a guest house to describe life’s journey.

The Guest House

This being human is a guest house.
Every morning a new arrival.

A joy, a depression, a meanness,
some momentary awareness comes
as an unexpected visitor.

The Guest House by Rumi

Welcome and entertain them all!
Even if they are a crowd of sorrows,
who violently sweep your house
empty of its furniture,
still, treat each guest honorably.
He may be clearing you out
for some new delight.

The Guest House by Rumi

The dark thought, the shame, the malice.
meet them at the door laughing and invite them in.

Be grateful for whatever comes.
because each has been sent
as a guide from beyond.

— Jellaludin Rumi,
translation by Coleman Barks

The Guest House by Rumi

WELCOME YOUR NOVEMBER GUESTS!!!

Fall In Love

September 1st, 2018 | Posted by Velda in POETRY FOR WOMEN | RETIRED FEATURE POSTS

Fall in Love

I was fortunate to spend Sacred Time on the Big Island with Kahuna Kalei’iliahi and a small intimate group celebrating love, wisdom, and compassion ceremonies of the Ancestors of that ancient land.  Kahuna Kalei’iliahi has a lovely small book published called Messages from the Ancients.  I am so grateful that the Kahuna gave me permission to share with my readers passages from her book.  I chose the following because we all know love is healing.

Fall In Love

Fall in Love

Fall in love today…

Fall in love with the sun as it rises

and as it sets, say thank you.

Fall in Love

Fall in love today…

Fall in love with the moon as she rises in

the night sky,

and send it a kiss.

Fall in Love

Fall in love today…

Fall in love with the Light you see in a

child’s eyes

and the song of a bird.

Fall in Love

Fall in love today…

Fall in love to today with the wind as it cools your

face and rustles the leaves.

Fall In Love

Fall in love today…

Fall in love today as you touch the face of

your Creator through your compassion.

Fall in love today…

~Messages from the Ancients, Kahuna Kalei’iliahi

Fall in Love

FALL IN LOVE EVERYDAY WITH SEPTEMBER!

Practice Transforming Energy
One of my favorite award winning authors is Sandra Ingerman.  Besides known for her books on shamanism, she also teaches workshops and on-line classes all over the world.   A great way to kick of the month of June is to share this author’s  8 Simple Practices to Transform Energy. 
1.  Breathe
Breathing is one of the simplest ways to transform energy. When you are in a state of reaction, your breathing becomes shallow. By breathing deeply, you naturally transform your reactive state.Practice Transforming Energy
2.  Set an Intention
When you feel upset, just say the following statement to yourself: “I need to express how I am feeling right now, and I ask that the energy of my feelings be transformed into love and light so I am feeding the world with love.”
Practice Ptransforming Energy
3.  Think of a Precious Image
The energy behind your emotions goes out to all living beings. If confronted by someone who evokes strong emotions, think of a loved one and impose his or her image on the face of the person challenging you. For example, you might work with the face of a baby kitten, puppy, or your favorite flower. What thoughts do you want to send to those you love?
Practice Transforming Energy
4.  Use the Power of Words
Spiritual traditions teach that words are vibration and the words we use affect our lives. As children many of us used the phrase “abracadabra.” This is actually an Aramaic phrase “Abraq ad habra” and means, “I will create as I speak.” Use words throughout the day which remind you of the energy of love.
Practice Transforming Energy
5.  Be Grateful
Think about what you are grateful for. Being grateful always transforms your current state of consciousness.
Practice Transforming Energy
6.  Project Strength
Don’t pity others whom you perceive as suffering — this only pushes them deeper into a hole. When you see people in their divine light and perfection you help give them the strength they need to deal with their troubles.Pactice Transforming Energy
7.  Connect with Nature
Water can wash away your pain. As you wash, visualize negative energy flowing from you and being transformed into light. As you stand in the wind, imagine the wind carrying what needs to be released and being transformed into light. Light a candle and imagine the fire transmuting your intense feelings. Or you can bury your troubles in the earth with the intention that the energy be transformed to love.
Practicies Transforming Energy
8.  Surround Yourself in Light
If you feel someone is being energetically hostile toward you, imagine a protective light surrounding you. Some people think of being surrounded by white light. I imagine being enclosed in a translucent blue egg. Find a color that works for you.
Practice Transforming Energy 

ENJOY A POSITIVE ENERGY MONTH OF JUNE!

Ancient Walker 2--3

I release my parents from the feeling that they have already failed me.

I release my children from the need to bring pride to me;

that they may write their own ways according to their hearts,

that whisper all the time in their ears.

I release my partner from the obligation to complete myself.

I do not lack anything,

I learn with all beings all the time.

butterfly 1

I thank my grandparents and forefathers who have gathered

so that I can breathe life today.

I release them from past failures and unfulfilled desires,

aware that they have done their best to resolve their situations

within the consciousness they had at that moment.

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I honor you, I love you and I recognize you as innocent.

I am transparent before your eyes,

so they know that I do not hide or owe anything

other than being true to myself and to my very existence,

that walking with the wisdom of the heart,

I am aware that I fulfill my life project,

free from invisible and visible family loyalties that might disturb

my Peace and Happiness,  which are my only responsibilities.

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I renounce the role of savior,

of being one who unites or fulfills the expectations of others.

 Learning through, and only through, LOVE, I bless my essence,

my way of expressing,

even though somebody may not understand me.

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I understand myself, because I alone have lived and experienced my history;

because I know myself, I know who I am, what I feel, what I do and why I do it.

I respect and approve myself.

I honor the Divinity in me and in you.

We are free.

(This ancient blessing was created in the Nahuatl language, spoken in Mexico)

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Empowered Woman

March 1st, 2018 | Posted by Velda in POETRY FOR WOMEN | RETIRED FEATURE POSTS

Empowered WomanThe Empowered Woman, she moves through the world
with a sense of confidence and grace.
Her once reckless spirit now tempered by wisdom.
Quietly, yet firmly, she speaks her truth without doubt or hesitation
and the life she leads is of her own creation.

She now understands what it means to live and let live.
How much to ask for herself and how much to give.
She has a strong, yet generous heart
and the inner beauty she emanates truly sets her apart.
Like the mythical Phoenix,
she has risen from the ashes and soared to a new plane of existence,
unfettered by the things that once posed such resistance.

Empowered Woman Her senses now heightened, she sees everything so clearly.
She hears the wind rustling through the trees;
beckoning her to live the dreams she holds so dearly.
She feels the softness of her hands
and muses at the strength that they possess.
Her needs and desires she has learned to express.
She has tasted the bitter and savored the sweet fruits of life,
overcome adversity and pushed past heartache and strife. 

And the one thing she never understood,
she now knows to be true,
it all begins and ends with you.

~author unknown

Empowered Woman

 

 REMEMBER TO MAKE MARCH AN EMPOWERING MONTH!

 

Native American Code Of Ethics

Ronit Baras shared the following in her Family Matters Blog:  “My work in personal development is in the service of all codes of ethics. I believe that regardless of which one we follow, if each and every one of us strives to live by them, to the best of our ability, we will create a better world.  Judaism is about 5,000 years old, Buddhism is about 2,500 years old, Christianity is about 2,000 years old, and Islam is about 1,500 years old. Meanwhile, the Native American Code of Ethics goes back 11,000 years. Fortunately, if you go deep into each of these belief systems, you will find them very similar”.Native American Code Of Ethics

Can you see the similarities between the North American Code of Ethics and your own beliefs?

  • Rise with the sun to pray. Pray alone. Pray often. The Great Spirit will listen, if you only speak.
  • Be tolerant of those who are lost on their path. Ignorance, conceit, anger, jealousy, and greed stem from a lost soul. Pray that they will find guidance.
  • Search for yourself, by yourself. Do not allow others to make your path for you. It is your road, and yours alone. Others may walk it with you, but no one can walk it for you.
  • Treat the guests in your home with much consideration. Serve them the best food, give them the best bed and treat them with respect and honor.
  • Do not take what is not yours whether from a person, a community, the wilderness or from a culture. It was not earned nor given. It is not yours.
  • Respect all things that are placed upon this earth – whether it be people or plant.
  • Honor other people’s thoughts, wishes and words. Never interrupt another or mock or rudely mimic them. Allow each person the right to personal expression.
  • Never speak of others in a bad way. The negative energy that you put out into the universe will multiply when it returns to you.
  • All persons make mistakes and all mistakes can be forgiven.
  • Bad thoughts cause illness of the mind, body and spirit. Practice optimism.

  • Nature is not FOR us, it is a PART of us. They are part of your worldly family.Native American Code of Ethics
  • Children are the seeds of our future. Plant love in their hearts and water them with wisdom and life’s lessons. When they are grown, give them space to grow.
  • Avoid hurting the hearts of others. The poison of your pain will return to you.
  • Be truthful at all times. Honesty is the test of ones will within this universe.
  • Keep yourself balanced. Your Mental self, Spiritual self, Emotional self, and Physical self – all need to be strong, pure and healthy. Work out the body to strengthen the mind. Grow rich in spirit to cure emotional ails.
  • Make conscious decisions as to who you will be and how you will react. Be responsible for your own actions.
  • Respect the privacy and personal space of others. Do not touch the personal property of others – especially sacred and religious objects. This is forbidden.
  • Be true to yourself first. You cannot nurture and help others if you cannot nurture and help yourself first.
  • Respect others’ religious beliefs. Do not force your belief on others.
  • Share your good fortune with others.

Native American Code Of Ethics

Nature Helps Us Unplug

I decided to share my connection to the overwhelming healing power and beauty of the sky, by integrating my personal sky photos with this ‘Thou Shalt Not Worry’  poem.  Hopefully it is a reminder that Nature can help us to unplug from daily challenges, especially during the holiday season.

Thou shalt not worry,

 for worry is the most unproductive of all human activities.

Thou shalt not be fearful,

for most of the things we fear never come to pass.

Thou shalt not cross bridges before you get to them,

for no one yet has succeeded in accomplishing this.

Nature Helps Us Unplug

Thou shalt face each problem as it comes,

for you can handle only one at a time anyway.

Thou shalt not take problems to bed with you,

for they make very poor bedfellows.

Thou shalt not borrow other people’s problems,

they can take better care of them than you can.

Natrure Helps Us Unplug

Thou shalt be a good listener,

for only when you listen do you hear ideas different from your own,

it’s very hard to learn something new when you’re talking.

Thou shalt not become bogged down by frustration,

for ninety percent of it is rooted in self-pity,

and it will only interfere with positive action.

Nature Helps Us Unplug

Thou shalt not try to relive yesterday,

for good or ill it is gone,

concentrate on what is happening in your life today.

Thou shalt count thy blessings,

never overlooking the small ones,

for a lot of small blessings add up to a big one.

~ Elodie Armstrong

Nature Helps Us Unplug