How To Worry Smarter

Today I stumbled across Dr. Beverly Potter’s little book,  The Worrywart’s Companion, Twenty-one Ways To Soothe Yourself and Worry Smart.  How many of us would be a more balanced woman, if we could only worry smarter?  The author points out that “Worrywarts worry themselves sick”,  and like a mantra, silently chant their fears.  However, it doesn’t bring serenity, it only generates anxiety and we know the emotional mind can trigger disease.

How To Worry Smarter

Healthy coping requires a balance of different thinking styles.  Creativity expert Edward DeBono in, The Six Thinking Hats, identified six basic styles of thinking: objective, emotive, supportive, possibility, critical, and strategic. Negative worrying habits can be replaced when practicing any of the following different thinking styles to provide a constructive mental approach dealing with worrisome situations.  For each style of thinking there is a corresponding question.  Asking this question will automatically set the corresponding thinking style in motion.

How To Worry Smarter

Practice Flexible Thinking

Objective Thinking:  Ask yourself  “What are the facts?”  Practicing objective thinking helps bring you back into balance.  It reminds you that the actual facts are not the same as the disastrous scenarios envisioned when worrywarting.

Emotive Thinking:  Ask yourself  ”What am I feeling?”  Look at all of your feelings, whether or not they seem justified, make sense, and even contradict each other.  Physical sensations can be linked to emotions.  It also is important to consider your preferences of likes, dislikes, values and desires, which are ways of looking at what you want or don’t want out of a situation.How To Worry Smarter

Supportive ThinkingAsk yourself  “What is working?”  Supportive thinking looks at the positive aspects of a situation and focuses on ways to enhance them.  Supportive thinking often feels unnatural to worrywarts who tend to focus on weaknesses, what’s wrong, what’s not working.  Engaging in supportive thinking brings you back to a more balanced view of the situation.

Possibility ThinkingAsk yourself “What’s possible here?”  When engaged in possibility thinking, let your creativity run.    Don’t try to be logical or realistic.  The key is to allow your mind the unfettered imaginative freedom of a child at play.  Avoid critiquing your ideas.  Even the most unrealistic or implausible scenarios often contain seeds of valuable new ideas which in the end turn out to have practical applications.How To Worry Smarter

Critical Thinking:  Ask yourself  “What’s wrong? What could go wrong?”  Critical thinking is where worrywarts get stuck.  It looks for what is wrong and is linear and logical.  However, critical thinking is an important skill.  Without the ability to make an accurate assessment of the real risks in a worrisome situation, you are likely to encounter many avoidable difficulties.  In order for critical thinking to be helpful, it must occur within the context of a full range of thinking skills.

Strategic ThinkingAsk yourself  “What’s the next step?”  Once you have engaged each of the preceding five thinking styles, you will have identified the facts of the worrisome situation.  Hopefully you have determined how you feel about it, what you want and what you don’t want to happen.  Final step is to view the worrisome situation from a detached perspective.  Chances are your next step will be some combination of the six thinking styles.  Keep practicing Flexible Thinking, it will become easier.How To Worry Smarter

 

This entire message was sent today from Sharon McErlane, author of  
 A Call To Power:  The Grandmothers Speak’. 
Grandmothers Speak
 
STANDING STEADY IN A SHAKY WORLD

Please think of us and join with us heart to heart. From Thursday through Sunday we’ll be working among the great rocks of Joshua Tree National Park to link this powerful site in Southern California with all sacred places on Earth. Uluru, Stonehenge, Machu Pichu, Mount Kailash, Glastonbury, Sedona, and thousands of others. Together we will magnify the presence of the Net of Light to hold both ourselves and the Earth steady during these shaky times.  Along with a Native American singer, we’ll call on the ancestors of our family lines and of the Earth itself, praying for reconciliation within the United States of America and throughout the world. We will immerse ourselves in prayer, meditation and sacred song, performing a ceremony of gratitude and reconciliation among the great rocks of Joshua Tree. Please connect with us within the Net of Light and link your hearts with ours as together we ask that blessings rain down on all beings.

May everyone in all the worlds be happy

May everyone in all the worlds be happy

May everyone in all the worlds be happy

Grandmothers Call To Power
“Focus on holding firm to the One Love,” the Grandmothers say. “Don’t be pulled off center by any drama, no matter how compelling it may seem. And, not matter what occurs in the world outside, do not deviate from your focus on the One Love. Trust in your heart to carry you forward. The power of your heart will rise up to match the challenges of the times you are living in–every time.”
~~ The Great Council of the Grandmothers.

Our world is in turmoil. The Net of Light Gathering in the desert of Joshua Tree National Park is being held in response to this great need.  Please join me (from our homes) with those gathering Thursday, March 2 through Sunday, March 5,  to work intensely for ourselves and our beloved planet.

Grandmothers Call To Power

I recommend Sharon McErlane’s books, A Call To Power: The Grandmothers Speak & Our Love Is Our Power.

Listen To Your Body

January 21st, 2017 | Posted by Velda in ENERGY HEALING

Listen To Your Body

I have enjoyed reading Ruth White’s book called Using Your Chakras.  She mentions “our bodies speak a very simple even primitive language.”  She goes on to explain that many times we ignore bodily symptoms and probably an initial look at the language of the symptoms may help us to understand the symbolic message they are giving.  For example, how many of us find that our back or neck is our most vulnerable area?

The author suggests when you get a neck  pain, ask the following questions.  Each question must always be reversed.  It can lead you to explore how it links with your emotions.

Listen To Your Body•  Am I being stiff-necked about certain things?  Or.  Could I possibly  gain from being more stiff-necked about something?

•  Is something (or someone!) being a ‘pain in the neck’ to me?  Or.  Am I being a ‘pain in the neck’ to myself or someone else?

•  Am I ’sticking my neck out’ unnecessarily about some matter?  Or.  Should I try to  ’stick my neck out’ more with a present situation?

Similarly, if there is back pain, you need to ask:

•  Am I being too rigid? Or.  Am I being too flexible?

•  Is someone ‘on my back’? Or.   Am I on someone else’s back?

•  Am I carrying too much for myself or other? Or.   Am I carrying enough or taking enough responsibility?

Above exercise can be used as a guide on how to listen and begin to understand our bodily messages.

Listen To Your Body

Shoulders hold our Emotional Burdens

November 25th, 2016 | Posted by Velda in ENERGY HEALING

 Shoulders Hold our Burdens

Today I want to spend time on the Burden Areas located at the shoulders.  The right shoulder is the OUTER WORLD – Burdens and Responsibilities of carrying emotional weight of others on  this shoulder.   The left shoulder is the INNER WORLD – Burdens and Responsibilities of carrying emotional weight of yourself on this shoulder.  I personally know that carried emotional issues can become physical issues, if not released.

The OUTER WORLD (right shoulder) emotional issues could include:  dealing with serious family health concerns, addiction of a loved one, depression of someone close, and responsibility of the care-taking of an terminally ill person or feeling responsible for family unity.

The INNER WORLD (left shoulder) emotional issues could include:  emotional baggage carried from childhood memories, grief over loss of loved one, trauma of physical or sexual abuse, loss of self-esteem, depression, unfulfilled dreams, feeling stuck, guilt, frustration, loneliness, and much more that we carry regarding our self.  We know that tight tense shoulders generally bunch up around our ears, restricting the flow of blood to brain.

Shoulders Hold Our Emotional BurdensHERE IS AN EXERCISE TO HELP RELAX YOUR SHOULDERS: 

1.  Round your shoulders forward and even sink your chest. Un- hunch the shoulders, spread the collar bones, lift your chest and relax your neck and jaw.

2.  Take your left hand and start tapping at your right shoulder joint and tap up to where shoulder joins neck.  Do this several times and then switch and  tapping your left shoulder with your right hand. Emotional releases sometimes happen during energy healing, Reiki and massage sessions.

3.  I believe you can release some of the emotions stored in your shoulders while doing the simple exercise to relax your shoulders mentioned above by repeating:

  “I RELEASE,  I RELAX,  I RELEASE”

I hope you might experiment releasing both any Inner World or Outer World Emotional Burdens you might be holding during this Holiday Season and throughout the year.

(This is a revisited post first published December 6, 2012)

Healing - Sitting In Anger

Anger is a response of fear, self-absorption, and self-inflation which can lead to indifference and hatred.  Most often anger is an overreaction to a situation.  There is nothing wrong with anger, but one needs to be able to manage anger in a healthy way.  How do we use visualization to work with our anger?  Dr. Alberto Villoldo, Ph.D. writes in his book, The Four Insights-Wisdom, Power, and Grace of the Earthkeepers,  ”As a form of a prayer, visualization…uses the language of images”.

Healing-Sitting Through Anger

To relieve anger, author Gerald Epstein, M.D. recommends the following Sitting Through Anger Exercise in his book Healing Visualizations Creating Health Through Imagery:

Healing - Sitting Through Anger

1.  Close your eyes.  Breathe out three times.

2.  See yourself sitting inside your anger.  Look at it.  Decide how you want to release and dispose of it.

3.  Breathe out once, and after ridding yourself of anger, place in the newly vacated space an opposite image and visualize sitting in the center of a beautiful lotus flower.

4.  You might want to visualize yourself floating or sitting in the center of clouds.

5.  Remember it is best to find your own images coming directly from your own experience.

6.  Then open your eyes, knowing that the anger is gone.

Healing - Sitting Through Anger

What Are Master Numbers?

May 20th, 2016 | Posted by Velda in ENERGY HEALING | NUMBER POWER

What Are Master Numbers?

Numerology believes every number has its vibrations, meaning, characteristics and influence.  Yet there are three numbers to pay extra-special attention to: 11, 22 and 33.   These are called Master Numbers.  What makes these numbers so … masterful?

What Arew Master Numbers

Master number 11 (Master Dreamers)

The number 11 represents instinct, and is the most intuitive of all numbers. It is your connection to your subconscious, to gut feeling and knowledge without rationality. Because the 11 has all the qualities of the 2 (since 1 + 1 = 2), the negative points of the 11 — anxiety, shyness, stressed energy — are balanced out by the 2′s qualities of charisma and inspiration.  This Master Number is extremely powerful and capable of great things, but can also be extremely self-sabotaging when not used correctly.  If you have the Master number 11 (Master Dreamer) in your Numerology Chart, tap into it and use it to create personal power and spiritual evolution. Your potential for growth, stability and personal power lies in the acceptance of intuitive understanding, and of spiritual truths. For the 11, such peace is not found so much in logic, but in faith. It is the psychic’s number.

What Are Master Numbers?

Master number 22 (Master Builders)

The Master number 22 holds more power than any other number (earning it the nickname Master Builder). It is a pragmatic number, a doer, capable of spinning wild dreams into concrete reality. Those who have 22 in their Numerology chart have great potential for success.  It has all the intuition of the number 11, paired with a grounded and scientific approach associated with the number 4 (because 2 + 2 = 4).  Unfortunately, not everyone with a 22 in their chart is practical.  This is symbolized by the brilliant person you might know who doesn’t live up to their potential.  Both the 11 and 22 are capable of greatness, but can shy away from great opportunities or apply too much pressure to themselves.  If you have 22 in your chart, ease up and realize your limitless opportunities. Turn down the pressure-cooker and realize your shot at serving the world in an effective and practical way.

What Are Maste Numbers?

Master number 33 (Master Teachers)

The 33 is the mover and shaker of the Master numbers (earning it the nickname Master Teacher). When 11 and 22 are combined with this Master number, intuition and dreams reach an entirely new orbit. A 33 used to its full potential means that there is no personal agenda, only a focus on humanitarian issues. The number 33 represents full understanding before communication. With 33 represented in one’s Numerology chart, that person is probably highly knowledgeable, but also fact-checks before preaching ideas or ideals.  Master Number 33 is only significant if it’s one of your Core numbers — Life Path, Heart’s Desire, Personal Expression, Personality or Maturity numbers.What Are Master Numbers?

The three Master Numbers represent

a Triangle of Enlightenment.

The number 11 represents the vision.

The number 22 combines vision with action.

The number 33 offers guidance to the world.

Watch for more on numerology and the power of numbers in the future!

Dry Brushing Lymphatic System

February 19th, 2016 | Posted by Velda in ENERGY HEALING

Dry Brush Lymphatic SystemThe most important benefits of the dry skin brush technique are the improvements to lymphatic function. It strengthens the immune system, stimulates hormone producing glands, and stimulates circulation.  It will help to rid your body of waste, toxins, viruses and bacteria. The end result is more energy, vitality, and less sickness. Dry Brushing The Lymphatic SystemThe entire body should be brushed, including your back, but skip the face and scalp. Use long sweeping strokes starting from the bottom of your feet upwards, and from the hands towards the shoulders, and on the torso in an upward direction to help drain the lymph back towards your heart. The lymphatic fluid only flows in one direction which is towards the heart, so it is important to dry brush in the same direction. 1.  Use light pressure in areas where the skin is thin and harder pressure on places like the soles of the feet. Don’t overdo it 2. Skin brushing can be done daily, preferably first thing in the morning. A thorough skin brushing takes about 10 minutes, but any time spent brushing prior to bathing will benefit the body. If you are feeling ill, increasing the treatments to twice a day can be beneficial. 3. Avoid sensitive areas like bruises and anywhere the skin is broken, such as areas of skin rash, wounds, cuts or infections 4. For added benefit: finish up with your regular shower and end with three hot and cold cycles. Turn on the water as hot as you can take it for several seconds, then as cold as you can handle it, then hot, then cold for three cycles.

Basic Directions for Brushing

1. You will use a light touch with this soft-natural bristled brush. The best time to brush is right before you get into the shower. 2.  Start at your feet and brush vigorously in circular motions. 3.  Continue brushing up your calves and thighs. 4. Next brush your hands and up your arms. 5. Proceed upward on your abdomen toward your heart using a circular counter-clockwise strokes 6.  You will brush downward on your neck, shoulders to the middle of back and upward from bottom of back to middle of back. Remember always brushing in the direction of the heart, so downward on areas above the heart and upward on areas below your heart. 7. Use light pressure on the breasts and any other sensitive areas. 8.  After Brushing follow with a hot shower.  Make sure you wash your brush with soap and water on a weekly basis.

 This is bwb’s March 2, 2014, post revisited.  

 

Balancing Yin & Yang Energy

February 4th, 2016 | Posted by Velda in ENERGY HEALING

Balancing Ying & Yang Energy

How can we direct our everyday lifestyle choices to help balance the two energetic polarities referred to as Yin and Yang by Chinese Medicine?   Balancing our Yin (feminine energy) and Yang (masculine energy) establishes harmony within the mind, body, and spirit.

Balancing Yin & Yang EnergyYin is restorative energy.  It allows our mind-body to slow down, relax, and rest.  Yin encompasses  the elements that nourish our body. Concentration, determination to follow beliefs, and morals are also connected to Yin energy.  When we cut ourselves off from Yin energy with excessive Yang energy, we lose the ability to fluidly move and adapt to different circumstances, be receptive to others, and connect with our creative inspiration.  Instead of feeling peaceful and rested throughout our day, weBalancing Yin & Yang Energy become rigid, agitated and overextended.  There is a feeling of continually needing to keep moving and keep doing.

Yang is fiery energy.  It  is the action behind every process between your mind and body.  Yang  drives and motivates all your emotional, physical, and spiritual decisions.  This is the energy you feel when you are moving your energy out into the world, focused on completing a task, and associated with the practical, logical thinking of the left hemisphere of the brain, as well as an extroverted personality.  However, Yang deficiency caused by excessive Yin energy, is when we have a hard time creating the experiences that we want in the world.  We lose sight of our goals, lose inspiration to create the things that we want for ourselves, and can slip into depression.

The following suggestions are all beneficial ways to balance your Yin and Yang Energy:

Balancing Yin & Yang EnergyReach out to nature - take a walk and absorb the life energy of nature with every breath.

Nutrition – take time to eat health foods instead of grazing on empty junk.

Water – plenty of pure, clean water will help flush out toxins and rehydrate you. Most people underestimate their need for water.

Meditation – quality quiet time to get in touch with yourself.  Realize where you’ve become deficient and work to correct the deficiency.

Tai chi – movements balance body, mind, and spirit. Helps recognize disharmony before it gets out of hand. 

LETS MAKE ACTIVE BALANCING A DAILY PRACTICE!

 

 

 

 

Energy Healing – Creative Vision

January 17th, 2016 | Posted by Velda in ENERGY HEALING

Energy Healing - Creative Vision

Today there is nothing better than recycling a past post (November, 2012).  We are now into some gloomy days.  This is the perfect time to plan a creative play date with our inner child.  The following is my adaptation of Dr. Bernie S. Siegel’s Exercise 58 in his book, 101 Exercises for the SOUL:

Energy Healing - Creative Vision

Energy Healing: Step One – Draw Me a Tree!

First, get yourself a big box of crayons, colored pens, or paints, and a drawing tablet.

If you are concerned about your artistic ability, let your inner-child come out to play by drawing and coloring with your non-dominant hand.  There is something so wonderful about childlike art.

This is a wonderful tool for self-expression.

Draw a picture of an outdoor scene, and include a tree in your art piece.

Do not read Step Two until you have completed the drawing.Energy Healing - Creative Vision

 Healing Energy: Step Two-Interpret Drawing

1.  Now interpret your drawing.  Here are a few questions:

2.  How empty or full is the picture?

3.  What colors did you choose?  This drawing represents your life and the tree represents you.

4.  What does your drawing say about how you feel about your environment and yourself?

5.  Are you blooming?  Are you waning?

6. How important are you in the scheme of things?

Energy Healing - Creative Vision 

 

 

Embracing Imperfection Is Healing

December 11th, 2015 | Posted by Velda in ENERGY HEALING

Embracing Imperfections

Yes, I am an avid follower of the “Voice”.  Tuesday evening’s performance by guest star Dolly Parton made me think more about the beauty of  imperfection.  She was raised in a poor family of 12 and sang the song she wrote about a coat her mother made for her when she was a young child.  The coat was made from scrapes of rags. It was not perfect, but it was made with love, and young Dolly was empowered embracing this imperfection. The following verse is from her song:

Embracing Imperfection

by Dolly Parton

My coat of many colors
That my momma made for me
Made only from rags
But I wore it so proudly
Although we had no money
I was rich as I could be
In my coat of many colors
My momma made for me

Embracing Imperfection

Embracing ImperfectionThis is the best time of the year for letting go of perfectionism.  WHY?  Because perfect is impossible.  I invite you to look around and enjoy the beauty of imperfection.  Share your embracing imperfection memories with friends and family.  Here is one of mine.  During my children’s youth, they always picked out a Charlie Brown tree for the play room.  Every year they picked the scraggliest tree on the lot.  After they finished decorating their tree, with all their handmade ornaments, it was adored and accepted for all it’s imperfections.

 EMBRACE THE BEAUTY OF IMPERFECTION AROUND YOU, IT IS HEALING!