What’s Your Mantra
DISCOVER YOUR FAVORITE ‘I AM MANTRAS’!!!
Negativity can be contagious if you let it and that will spill over into your work and personal life. Accepting negativity is toxic to your well-being. Below you will find recommendations for handling negativity?
“I never let anyone through my mind with their dirty feet” – Mahatma Gandhi
Not Your Fault. The best answer to negativity is accepting that it has nothing to do with you. Taking negative criticism to heart can weigh you down faster than a ton of bricks. Don’t tie yourself to the baggage of being responsible for a person’s thoughts. Giving people’s opinion more credit than they deserve will only steal your joy and peace, mainly when those insights don’t stop coming and never get better.
“Don’t find fault. Find a remedy” – Henry Ford
Focus on You. Someone who is always in a bad mood or spirits can suck the life out of you. Prioritizing yourself will help you build a stronger character and defense for dealing with such people. Your happiness lies in how much you value yourself, so take that duty seriously. Pursue dreams, take risks, make milestones and that will give you power.
“The mind is everything. What you think you become” – Buddha
Check your Reaction. A natural response to a toxic person may be to hit back similarly or worse. try to reverse the reaction to a negative situation. Answer agitation with calmness and brashness with reason. A few common tactics to calm yourself down may be useful in these cases. Deep breathing works wonders when looking to clear your head. Breathe in and count slowly.
“How you choose to feel today, should not be dependent on others” – Anthon St. Maarten”
Don’t Pay Unnecessary Attention. The more interactions you have with negative people, the stronger their impact in your life. Keeping conversations brief and concise means you don’t have to listen to negative thoughts. Think of negativity as fire, and attention as its fuel. Starve it, and it will die down. Setting boundaries can help a great deal in these situations. Engaging in regular conflict with negative people is paying them too much attention. Know when it’s time to put up a fight and when to let it go.
“You are no advantage to anyone who has your negative attention” – Esther Hicks
Sometimes Speak Up. Letting an individual know that his/her attitude is hurting others may be the wake-up call required. An individual who thinks they are getting away with being toxic to other people may make that space their comfort zone, and that will not help, especially if it’s a family member. Talking to them may bring awareness that will trigger change.
“People inspire you, or disarm you. Pick them wisely”– Hans F. Hansen
Staying Positive. To quote Dr. Robert H. Schuller, “it takes one positive thought that is given a chance to survive and thrive to overpower an army of negative thoughts.” Take time to identify the positivity triggers in your life and always have one on hand when you anticipate an encounter with a negative person such as a motivational quote or a peaceful place in your head where you can retreat to mentally for a minute or two to keep yourself from drowning.
We need to feel more to understand others. We need to love more to be loved back.
We need to cry more to cleanse ourselves.
We need to laugh more to enjoy ourselves.
We need to establish the values
of honesty and fairness
when interacting with people.
We need to establish
a strong ethical basis as a way of life.
We need to see more
other than our own little fantasies.
We need to hear more
and listen to the needs of others.
We need to give more
and take less.
We need to share more
and own less.
We need to realize
the importance of the family
as the backbone of stability.
We need to look more
and realize we are not so different
from one another.
We need to create a world where
we can all peacefully live
the life we choose.
We need to create a world where
we can trust each other.
~Susan Polis Schutz
What if you thought of it
as the Jews consider the Sabbath—
the most sacred of times?
Cease from travel.
Cease from buying and selling.
Give up, just for now,
on trying to make the world
different than it is.
Sing. Pray. Touch only those
to whom you commit your life.
And when your body has become still,
reach out with your heart.
Know that we are connected
in ways that are terrifying and beautiful.
(You could hardly deny it now.)
Know that our lives
are in one another’s hands.
(Surely, that has come clear.)
Do not reach out your hands.
Reach out your heart.
Reach out your words.
Reach out all the tendrils
of compassion that move, invisibly,
where we cannot touch.
Promise this world your love–
for better or for worse,
in sickness and in health,
so long as we all shall live.
Lynn Ungar, Unitarian Universalist Minister, 3/11/20
When we are under stress, the chakras can get clogged with heavy, unwanted energies. When this happens we can feel stuck, tired, run down, mentally foggy, and overly emotional. Simply cleansing the chakras can help to clear out these stuffy, unwanted energies and allow the chakras to function optimally once more.
Lie on your back. You can do this yourself or have a friend perform the technique. First shake your hands to clear the energy. Then take your hands, open and palms down one on top of the other and place them over the first chakra and start to circle it counterclockwise about 3 to 4 inches above the chakra. To determine which is counterclockwise imagine a clock lying face up on your navel.
Make sure you or your friend use slow counterclockwise circles over the chakra, (starting from the Root Chakra). Do this for approximately one to two minutes. Then shake off your hands to clear the energy. Circle clockwise for half as long as the counterclockwise direction. Repeat this with each chakra. *You can use one hand if you like. Use the left to clear and the right to sooth.
When doing this process you will notice that the counterclockwise brings up toxic energies moving these out of the body. The clockwise portion is very important as it completes the process by soothing the chakra then stabilizing it.
Divide a blank piece of paper into three columns. The center column is where I built my totem starting with the Earth Chakra located at the bottom (referred to as Earth Star) moving to the top chakra above the Crown (referred to as Soul Star).
Allow your intuition to select what animal you think best represents each of the nine chakras. Sketch or paste pictures of the animals you choose for each chakra. You will probably be moved to pick your favorite animals.
I was extremely fortunate that my dearest friend took my collage of animals stacked on top of each other and did a beautiful pencil etching (shown at the left). It is one of my most cherished pieces of art. I had fun hand sewing my Chakras’ Animal Totem. This is where you get to be very creative.
In the left hand column of my paper, are my animals’ Totem Lessons. Right hand column shares the meanings of Dreamtime Messages received from my totem animals. The below Chakras’ Animal Totem Chart, was an informative Vision Board exercise.
FEBRUARY IS A GREAT MONTH TO CREATE YOUR CHAKRAS’ ANIMAL TOTEM!!!
‘Ring Out, Wild Bells’
Ring out, wild bells, to the wild sky,
The flying cloud, the frosty light:
The year is dying in the night;
Ring out, wild bells, and let it die.
Ring out the old, ring in the new,
Ring, happy bells, across the snow:
The year is going, let it go;
Ring out the false, ring in the true.
Ring out the grief that saps the mind
For those that here we see no more;
Ring out the feud of rich and poor,
Ring in redress to all womankind.
Ring out a slowly dying cause,
And ancient forms of party strife;
Ring in the nobler modes of life,
With sweeter manners, purer laws.
Ring out the want, the care, the sin,
The faithless coldness of the times;
Ring out, ring out my mournful rhymes
But ring the fuller minstrel in.
Ring out false pride in place and blood,
The civic slander and the spite;
Ring in the love of truth and right,
Ring in the common love of good.
Ring out old shapes of foul disease;
Ring out the narrowing lust of gold;
Ring out the thousand wars of old,
Ring in the thousand years of peace.
RING IN the valiant woman and free,
The larger heart, the kindlier hand;
Ring out the darkness of the land,
Ring in 2020 that is to be.
by Alfred, Lord Tennyson (1809-92)
(changes made in bold represent current times)
The American Psychological Association (APA) found nearly half of all women in the United States experience heightened stress during the holidays, which puts their health at risk. The APA also learned that during this time, 41 percent of women use food and 28 percent use alcohol.
Take calm-down breaks. Soon after you awake, close your eyes, take several deep breaths and meditate or just relax. Imagine yourself in a beautiful place, think of a happy memory or visualize yourself succeeding at a cherished goal. “Quieting down your mind before you begin your day can help it get off to a great start and things will flow for you,” says Debra Berndt, an expert in creative visualization and hypnosis.
Put on rose-colored glasses. When people try to push their bad habits on you during this holiday season, tune into their motivations. For instance, before you get annoyed step into their shoes. Then graciously thank them for their misguided attention. Rather than view your situation with annoyance, be grateful instead.
Get moving. Perhaps one of the best ways to overcome stress during the holidays or any other time is to exercise regularly. Research shows that physical activity not only boosts your fitness and energy levels but can also elevate your moods. In addition, exercise has been found to reduce anger, tension, fatigue and confusion.
Go for real foods mostly. Inevitably, at this time of year, you’ll be tempted with sugary, empty-calorie “treats” just about wherever you go. But to be your most energetic, focused and happy self, it’s best to eat foods that grow on trees or on the ground (vegetables and fruits) and to choose healthy fats (such as olive oil and flax seeds), lean protein (such as fish and organic chicken) and legumes, nuts and seeds.
Take polite portions of “comfort” foods and drinks. During the holidays, it’s easy to “fall off the wagon” and use or over-use alcohol, sugar and caffeine. It’s best to think before you treat your body like a trash can instead of a temple.
Prepare “Nice To Do For Me” and “Need To Do For You” lists. Writing down all that you have to do during the holidays will help you realize how doable your tasks are. Be realistic as to what you put on your lists. Then start tackling one item from each list in turn. By alternating between lists, you won’t feel deprived, because you’re being good to yourself. When you practice extreme self-care and put yourself first, you are then fully available to others without resentment or anger.
Be Generous. One of the best ways to stay calm, content and cheerful this time of year is to act generously with your loved ones, co-workers and friends. This doesn’t have to mean you’re spending a lot of money. You can be generous with your compliments. You can generously offer to do a loved one’s dreaded errand. When you are creative with your gifts and thank you’s, people will appreciate your real, heartfelt sentiments.
Dear Great Spirit,
You are inside of me, within my very breath,
Within each bird, each mighty mountain,
Your Sweet touch reaches everything,
And I am well protected.
Thank you for this beautiful day before me.
May joy, love, peace,
And compassion be part of my life,
And all those around me on this day.
I am healing and I am healed.
~Ayurveda Morning Prayer
This lovely Ayurveda Morning Prayer
Says everything there is to say
About what we wish for our loved ones,
Our neighbors, all nations, our planet, and ourselves.
October, with the amazing transforming to fall colors, is an excellent time to consider Accepting Change. Author Karen Frazier, in her book, CRYSTALS FOR HEALING, states “Many people find change difficult because they fear the unknown…However, change is a necessary and natural part of life”. Following are Mind, Heart & Soul Crystal Remedies for Accepting Change found in chapter 4 of her book.
1. Sit quietly in a comfortable position with your eyes closed. Place both hands gently over your heart chakra.
2. Breathe deeply and visualize pure white energy flowing from above, down through your crown chakra, through your arms and hands, and into your heart chakra.
3. Repeat the mantra, sitting quietly for at least 10 minutes or until you feel at peace.
REMEDY #1: WATERMELON TOURMALINE
During periods of tumultuous change in your life, carry a piece of watermelon tourmaline in your pocket or wear watermelon tourmaline in a necklace. It will help bring acceptance and clarity to your situation. Watermelon tourmaline promotes all types of love, balances energies, inspires creativity, allows connection with nature, balances chakras, heals emotional pain, and brings one peace and calmness.
REMEDY #2: PREHNITE & CLEAR QUARTZ GRID
Set up a simple grid with a prehnite center stone and three clear quartz points arranged in a triangle around the center stone, with the points facing away from the center. The quartz points will amplify the power of the prehnite, which provides inner strength and acceptance of new circumstances. The Direction of the quartz points moves the energy in the direction the point faces, in this case, sending it out into the surrounding area. Prehnite also cleanses and detoxifies energy fields.
WHAT CHANGES IN OCTOBER CAN BRING POSITIVE, NEW ENERGY INTO YOUR LIFE?